THE STORY OF MY LIFE.
It is better not to marry than to marry and go to hell. When one misses the perfect will of God, he is likely to experience what is about to be shared.
Actually,I am a virgin in my innocency I didn't get engage to any lady. In fact , being an introvert who doesn't want to associate with people and also see it very difficult at times to talk to people,I keep things to myself. I take after my Dad.
The first sister I would propose to was when I was age 33. At that point the Lord Himself spoke to me about her-Ibilola by name. To confirm this, she also said that the Lord has already told her that I'm coming. She runs a school at that time.
Hmmmm... The very but,is her father.
I've never experienced that in my life. The so-called tough man had accursed her children early enough not to marry anyone that hails from Kogi State, and I'm from Kogi State. Ibilola was facing this battle,on the contrary her mother was happy to receive me, but her so-called tough husband became a stumbling block.
Ibilola and I began to pray and fast on this matter. For almost three months .our meeting point was UMCATC every Friday. Supposing Ibilola has the courage of those ancient sisters who will say YES when they should have said NO, we would have won that battle. Her heart was shaking and she was fearful. May God not allow us to have bad counselors. At my own side,an evangelist friend and brother then was fed back by me on the journey. It got to time when we had another meeting at UMCATC,sister Ibilola asked me a question of doubt: "how did I even say God spoke to me before I propose to her?" This was after a long journey. I said "Oh! I knew what God told me and in confirmation what you said , I wrote it in my diary." In a nutshell, , I ,of course rehearsed it to one after the other.
Then I gave her a test to go and pray the more as if she didn't know anything and she shouldn't allow any idol to occupy her heart... (*BECAUSE OF TIME,I MAY NOT BE ABLE TO GIVE THE DETAILED STORY HERE, BUT I CAN SAY IT VERBALLY).
... Elliptically,we eventually departed. I released her. However,it was not funny at all for both of us. Like a medical term,we shared it 50/50.
She encountered wrong counseling from her so-called spiritual fathers and mentors. I was also hiccuped by such and we both faced the music.
(THAT'S EPISODE ONE... NOW, EPISODE TWO OF THE STORY).
--------------------------------When that happened around the same year,one of my friends then who was aware of the relationship between Ibilola and I came to visit me at home, one night as I was seeing him off,he asked me "brother Sam, how about yours marital life?" I told him to change the subject matter and discuss something else. He retorted immediately that I need it. In Yoruba language,he said:"Bi esin ba dani ,a ma ntugun ni." Meaning, in English language:"If a horse throws you off, you mount on it again."
This time, I've already sealed up my mind to focus solely on the work of the ministry and remain holy and eventually make heaven. I didn't know that the devil also was strategizing a subtle means to get me.
That takes me to a strange occurrence which is the Yoruba will call EEMO came my way. This young man, actually my age mate,once a member of The Word Assembly,who knows me as a nephew to Isaac Omolehin. This young man was working as a representative with this publisher-BEST SOLUTION. I think they are even from the same area, left by compulsion to start set up his own publication. You know,he was going from one minister of God to another for prayers.
In other words,so that BEST SOLUTION will not aim at him. He eventually succeeded in having his own printing machine at Adisco axis around BUAK. The first publication,he drove himself to Osere in Prime D to advertise his first publication. As he got there, the book he took there was adopted and was in care of Toyin, one of the teachers in that school-Prime D Nurs./Pry. Sch.,Osere. I learnt that this publisher started digging deep into this sister's privacy. As a matter of fact, she told him that she's not married, when she was asked about her husband.
That was how he match made both of us together as husband and wife.
There was higgledy-piggledy. I was automatically bewitched without knowing what has come upon me. Anointing cannot do that for you, more so,a man with a glorious destiny-a ministry... Look at the life of Samson,in the lap of Delilah... What a bitter experience!
During church wedding there's a charge christians don't carefully take notice of . The minister of God would read this charge openly before the congregation: "... or know for sure that any person joined together otherwise than as God's word allows, such are not joined, and therefore their marriage is not lawful."
We begin to crucify one another and quote the scripture verbatim: "What therefore, God hath joined together, let not man put asunder."(Mathew 19:6). My question is who join who together? Is it God or man?
We have to be careful! Do we also pay attention to the marriage charge right on the altar. That's why we have so many broken marriages. When they are not lawfully joined together according to God's word. We join them together, not God does the joining. It baffles me a lot!
The summary of marriage is Amos 3:3 "Can two walk together, except they be agreed?" From the onset, there is no agreement between Toyin and I. We were just patching, enduring not enjoying.
I was dying in silence. At times,we fight and wrestle,we beat each other. This same wedding between Toyin and I was hasten by her business partner, the publisher. He engineered it hurriedly without delay even on the part of Toyin. They're very close. And she doesn't want me or anybody to talk about it, she would flare up!
Before the wedding, even my people kicked against it,I still went on . This lady is the one that is always leading and I follow suit.
Before the wedding she came to enticed me subtlely and caught me spiritually right in my room. An agent on assignment. She knows her target, but I was not sensitive enough. She came purposely for that ' precious thing' I 'm carrying, the ministry.
She masqueraded as a Deeper Life member, but eventually I discovered that she used that as a camouflage. Promiscuously, she is deep. And she's saying that she was the one that exposed me. She said she would usher me to hell.
Regrettably, I wouldn't have gone that far in this relationship... She a contestant, nagging, quarrelsome and messy lady. There's no findings I just jump into it.
Out of four children, two died the same year... Her mother came in her own domain, the coven of darkness and the entire home was messy ... 2022, I slumped, she didn't take care of me she wanted me dead. She pushed me out of the house. I was hanging outside with a pastor friend for 28 days... I came back home with the intervention of Apostle ADALUMO. I was hell again... The opposite sex are her favourites... At a time she had fun right in the living room with one pastor Ashaolu, the residence pastor in the church she attends... And she has been in this act for years... Until her exposition... We could not have sex together... Must of the time she would say her body is paining her... She has sent me out of the house twice...
This matter has been coming up on and off... No manner... No good approach...
She denied me of food... I started eating in the bukatariat... What else? A long story...
For how long would I continue like this...?
Whatsoever I do ministerially that she will surface,is by compulsion... Baba ADALUMO, OGHENEMARO, Isaac Omolehin intervened and all to no avail...
Until finally, she would leave home to sleep somewhere else when her mother died right in the same house and she didn't tell me... The following morning she would come back home most of the time, weekends. ALHAJA MARIAMA noticed all these funny behaviours... She called her talked to her, still the same... I heard the news from town that she's looking for apartments... And she didn't inform me...
Scripture says"It's better to live alone in the corner of an attic than with a quarrelsome wife in a lovely home."Prov.21:9;Prov.21:19
" It's better to live alone in the desert than with a quarrelsome, complaining wife."
Prov.25:24 " It's better to live alone in the corner of an attic than with a quarrelsome
wife in a lovely home".
Prov.27:15,16 " A quarrelsome wife is as annoying as constant dripping on a rainy day. Stopping her complaints is like trying to stop the wind or trying to hold something with greased hands."
"Can the Ethiopian change his skin,or the leopard his spots? Then may ye also do good, that are accustomed to do evil."
Jer.13:23.
God that has called me has a better thing for me than what anyone can give. He loves me better than you claim to love me
The Lord has foretold so many things concerning this matter and it is to my personal consumption.
Details of this story I can tell you. Just to clear some side talks.
--------------------------------•Written on Thursday 3rd July,2025.
